Larry V. Pell ms mft

The following is for me a point of convergence between yoga meditation and client centered therapy. For both it’s about:

BEING WHERE YOU ARE

That means not just saying I feel “X “ or I am thinking “X“ or “X“ is happening in me. It’s more a matter of acknowledging that where you are in your consciousness is, in the now, you.

Identification:

I believe that I am what I am experiencing in the moment/now.  I become (identified with) it and hence it is experientially me (or I become it). When through awareness I see that I have become and now “am” this, then it vanishes and I remain.

What I am, in essence, is beingness, or pure being. I am that I am. I, or beingness, goes around encountering a multitude of conditions and events, and having feelings and thoughts about them. I then think that I am these feelings/thoughts. I make the assumption that since I am experiencing them they are me. I am then one step removed from my beingness.

 A further problem occurs when I don’t simply unconditionally accept this identity that I, at least for the moment (now), am. Then I relate to it instead of just be it. I make an external object out of it, and relate to that object. I talk about it, think about it, feel it, as something I experience but not as what I am. Then I am a second step removed from my beingness.

An example will make this more clear. An event occurs and fear occurs as an inner experience. On the blank slate of pure beingness there is now fear. The Essential I could then say “I am fear“ but it doesn’t. Then the (identified) I says “I feel afraid“. Or worse yet pushes down or denies the fear feeling and goes around acting fearfully in other situations where it is not appropriate. 

To unravel this the person needs to first recognize and accept the feeling. To say “I feel afraid“.

Then the person needs to realize, at least in this aspect of their being, that they are identified with the fear-that they are, for now, the fear.

They then need to step back and look at themselves, at their self, their “I”, and with awareness say of it “Oh-I is fear.”

The impartial observer and pure awareness that says this is the essential beingness. When this is said with conviction and clarity what is left is essential beingness. (The [objectified and identified with] fear is gone.)

Try it. It works.

When you can say "I am (or is) fear there is no-thing (fear) left. What was fear shrinks into itself and there's nothing left but beingness.

Thanks for looking.

I will welcome any comments or input.

Larry Pell

E-Mail: Larrypell@icloud.com